Despite the requests of deputies, as well as the Commissioner for Children's Rights of the Republic of Crimea, the boy remains in an orphanage.
Could not pass by
Valentina Tarasenko in the city is well known. She is an experienced teacher, she used to teach at school, and now she spends most of her time volunteering. Tarasenko is the coordinator in the charity fund at the diocese, in addition, it helps mothers to restore parental rights and even participates with them in court hearings. Together with her husband she brings up five native children and two more adoptive.
The first boy's wife Tarasenko took custody back in 2012. At that time, Valentina nursed children in the hospital, having organized the post of nannies. There she drew attention to a newborn with serious illnesses and could not pass by. Four years later, another seriously ill child appeared in the family, which other adoptive parents refused because he needed special treatment.
Elena Chernenko and Valentina Tarasenko | RIA Novosti / From the personal archive of Valentina Tarasenko
About Elena Chernenko (last name changed. — Approx. Ed.) Valentina found out by chance: I saw a call for help from a single mom in social networks — I had to take the child from the orphanage. The child was there while the mother was undergoing chemotherapy. Ward was ready to give the baby only in good conditions. The boy's father did not help and was not even inscribed on the birth certificate. Elena did not have a Russian passport — only an invalid Ukrainian one. Therefore, volunteers collected money and all the necessary things for her.
I just had a stroller, a cot, and something else of the little things. I offered to immerse everything in the car and take it to the house that Lena found for living. We arrived in the remote village of Steel. The house is dilapidated, but inside it is clean and tidy: jars stand for pickling, dinner in a saucepan, ironed bedding.
“Very thin, nicely dressed and completely bald young woman came out to us, thanked for a long time. We were stunned: she has cancer of the lymphatic system in the third stage, there is nothing in the village, and she is going to live here. With her courage she struck us outright, ”recalls Valentina.
According to her, Chernenko wanted to buy the house to live with the child. The hostess asked for housing 120 thousand rubles, but when she learned that Lena was being helped, she raised the cost to 400 thousand. The volunteers did not have such money, the owner demanded to leave the premises. Elena found a house in a nearby village for rent four thousand a month. “She had already brought things there, and the hostess at the last moment refused to populate the sick Lena. My heart did not allow me to throw her alone on the street, so I decided to take her to Simferopol, ”says Tarasenko.
The family did not take
Valentina found out about the biography of a young mother: until she was 16 she lived in a boarding school for mentally retarded children in Kiev, because she stuttered a lot. The apartment in which he was registered, the father passed, and he lived with another family. Although part of the property belonged to the girl, she was not taken home.
“So Lena left for Crimea and ended up in Dzhankoy. I met a man, he took her to live with him. A son was born. The mother-in-law hoped that Lena would do everything around the house. A weak girl due to illness constantly lay. As a result, she drove her away, ”the interlocutor describes the situation.
In the autumn of 2018, volunteers helped Chernenko to issue a Russian passport, and Lena took the child from the orphanage. Despite the treatment, the health of the young mother worsened every day. In November, in desperation, she asked Valentine if she could take her son after her death.
“This is not to say that this decision was made from the bay. For us, this is a serious step, we consulted with my husband. Lena wanted her son to be raised independently, so that he would go to circles, sections, so that he would grow up in love. His father was not at all interested in the life of the child. However, Lena punished: if he suddenly wants to communicate with him, do not interfere, ”explains Tarasenko. And he adds: she also became a baby godmother.
"Find a good mother"
Elena went to the reception in the department of children's affairs in Simferopol on February 14, announced her desire to transfer the child after the death of the Tarasenko family. According to Valentina, she was refused right at the reception.
“They explained:“ You do not worry, your child will not be left in the orphanage, we will find him a good mother. And this family you have chosen is large, they have no conditions. ” How can such verdicts be made if no one even came to our house? Then it is not known when the mother will die, maybe this would not have happened at all, how can they know? A candidate for possible guardianship should not be registered until the need arises, ”Tarasenko is outraged.
And, looking ahead, he clarifies: after Chernenko’s death, specialists from the guardianship department repeatedly came to her — the family passed all the checks safely. Valentina and her husband are healthy, there are no convictions, the living conditions are good.
Elena passed away on April 3rd. Her son was immediately taken to the “Yolochka” child’s home. Valentina filed an application with the prosecutor's office, appealed to the office of the ombudsman for children’s rights in Crimea, to State Duma deputy Andrei Kozenko. Tarasenko claims that the boy was taken away on the day of his mother’s death, without providing any documents, without issuing a single act.
The guardianship authorities learned that the child has a dear grandfather in Kiev. “The specialists contacted him, ostensibly by phone, he gave preliminary consent to pick up his grandson. This, in fact, was a refusal to grant custody to me. But how can a telephone conversation be the basis for making a decision, how did they determine from the voice that this person is Elena's father? He never sent any documents confirming the relationship to them, ”leads his version of Valentin. According to her, until now there has been no news from my grandfather.
Tarasenko said that even during her lifetime, Elena kept in touch with her father only by phone, but the whole conversation was reduced to requests to be discharged from the apartment.
“For the rest, he was not interested in her fate, even when she was seriously ill. Needless to say that he did not appear at the funeral? Now he is 63 years old, the grandfather never came for the grandson, although he knows very well that the daughter is no longer there, and the child is essentially an orphan and is in the infant's house, ”Valentina says with regret. The RIA Novosti correspondent tried to reach Vladimir Chernenko, the boy’s grandfather, but he did not pick up the phone.
So far, no official refusal of the guardianship has been received, but they are not allowed to see the boy. Tarasenko wrote a statement on April 26, no answer to this day. “The convention on the rights of the child clearly states that the baby cannot be separated from the family, he must continue to communicate with someone, this is a trauma. I was told to wait 30 calendar days. This is a living child, why should he wait for adults to play enough in bureaucracy? ”- a mother of many children is perplexed.
Mother's desire is more important
This story caused a great resonance in the Crimea. The Ombudsman for Children in the Republic, Irina Klyueva, explained to RIA Novosti that the guardianship authorities consider adoption as a priority than guardianship. And if you rely on the Family Code, this is true.
“But Vitya’s mother submitted an application asking to transfer the baby to a specific person. She did this in accordance with all laws: there is an article that allows a single parent to independently identify a guardian to a child. Specialists of the guardianship department believe that the order described in the Family Code and Helena’s law are equivalent. Although it is not. She wrote a statement, being in her right mind, fully aware of all the consequences. I believe that the guardianship simply does not have the right to be the master of destinies and not to take into account the desire of the mother, ”Klyuev assesses.
The Ombudsman brought her position to the prosecutor's office, but there they did not see any violations in the guardianship actions.
“I know Tarasenko, and before that she turned to the office for help and support. Let us reason logically: if the guardianship authorities have any complaints, they couldn’t give Valentina and her husband the status of “fostering family”. And they have such a status. Moreover, Tarasenko herself told them about her grandfather, ”the children's ombudsman puts an end to the dispute.
RIA Novosti contacted Svetlana Shcherbakova, head of the department for children's affairs in Simferopol. She explained that Tarasenko distorts information. The official noted: adoption in this case is indeed considered the priority form of child placement. And since at the time of the death of the mother of the boy, Valentina Tarasenko was not registered as a candidate for guardians or adoptive parents, she was denied temporary guardianship.
The decision was made on April 19. However, on April 25, Tarasenko wrote a statement about the possibility of being an adoptive parent — she was given a positive response and placed in a queue. Shcherbakova also confirmed that the officials communicated with the boy's grandfather by telephone and he agreed to pick up the boy, but he did not provide any documents. In addition, the head of the department reported that Tarasenko disclosed the personal data of the minor in the media comments, therefore, a complaint was filed with her in Roskomnadzor.
The juvenile lawyer Victoria Danilchenko, commenting on RIA Novosti’s Simferopol history, stressed: the guardianship authorities, in addition to formal nuances, must take into account the moral component and the child’s attachment to the environment in which he recently lived. In her opinion, the reluctance of officials to take into account the circumstances may harm the psychological state of the boy. “After all, the main duty of the guardianship and trusteeship bodies is to act in the interests of the child, to respect his rights,” concluded Danilchenko.
See also: What to do if guardianship came.
Chief editor of the blog — Felix.